tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1420360158983455036.post6199763722386713350..comments2023-08-20T16:24:49.454+01:00Comments on Mum's the word: The lion's strength lies in its vulnerabilityMinerva's Mindhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09447242831712367231noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1420360158983455036.post-34399389538570296882010-02-16T14:54:18.437+00:002010-02-16T14:54:18.437+00:00Wow you were up late my lovely or should I say Mar...Wow you were up late my lovely or should I say MarathonMum. I don't know if it is instinctive but I know that when A and I row and I give as good as it gets then it only makes things worse so that's one reason. More recently when I am observing others reactions to me, I guess I realise that what can seem like an attack and unpleasant to me, is just defensive behaviour on their part perhaps because they feel hurt by what I have said. Slinging mud back at them won't help so withdrawing until I am calm enough to respond more objectively seems to work better. Thanks for your comments especially the compliment. K xxMinerva's Mindhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09447242831712367231noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1420360158983455036.post-63599321600690757052010-02-16T00:10:27.494+00:002010-02-16T00:10:27.494+00:00Another thought provoking post, Kate. I too withdr...Another thought provoking post, Kate. I too withdraw when I feel hurt, or misunderstood, or unhappy. I wonder if it's an instinctive thing? I am constantly challenging myself to change patterns of behaviour, and it's something I'm working on. But I'm a work in progress, so it doesn't always happen!karaminahttp://www.marathonmummy.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1420360158983455036.post-11739588663123234552010-02-15T13:45:17.405+00:002010-02-15T13:45:17.405+00:00Closing the blog was a year ago and it was because...Closing the blog was a year ago and it was because I never knew when the next comment was going to come and began to live in fear of logging on to my email account. So yes you can be stalked in cyberspace.<br /><br />Love the idea of mogulling Callie though I usually avoid mogul runs when skiing! Can't wait to write my next post but will have to wait until tonight as need to catch a few peeps in the office first.<br /><br />Keep up with the giving and receiving of hugs you special lady,<br /><br />KxxMinerva's Mindhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09447242831712367231noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1420360158983455036.post-21216638341524309212010-02-15T11:33:47.366+00:002010-02-15T11:33:47.366+00:00So glad to read that we need 12 hugs a day (minimu...So glad to read that we need 12 hugs a day (minimum) to live in the flow ... must be why I LOVE hugging people (and getting them back, of course!).<br /><br />Awwww Kate, thank you so much for opening your heart with your readers - I, too, tend to withdraw when hurt but accept that sometimes its better to keep going and grow through the pain. I am so sorry to hear that you had to delete your whole blog because of a few spiteful comments and trust that your weekend away as a family did you the world of good *hugs*<br /><br />Thank you also for reminding me that sometimes you need to step off the path to break those boundaries ... I'd better go bouncing off a few paths (or mogul-ing - loved watching that in the Winter Olympics yesterday!!!) and shake myself up ready for a super-whizzy Spring 2010,<br /><br />Much love to you, as always x xCalliehttp://www.holisticfeathers.co.uknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1420360158983455036.post-40881220908674467602010-02-15T09:58:56.902+00:002010-02-15T09:58:56.902+00:00Thanks Josie. I have found that talking about it ...Thanks Josie. I have found that talking about it helps and rather than responding in kind and going on the defensive, I just try to remain open and willing to explain my thought processes/ intention. I wanted to say I read your 11 Feb post but I think the previous post and comments had been removed. Thought you were very brave. I received some nasty anon comments on my last blog over a period of weeks and it had such an impact on me that In deleted the whole blog.Minerva's Mindhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09447242831712367231noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1420360158983455036.post-41861642574833752812010-02-14T20:44:19.070+00:002010-02-14T20:44:19.070+00:00I do exactly the same thing, withdraw and retreat ...I do exactly the same thing, withdraw and retreat when I am struggling. It doesn't do me any favours either. I batter with that instinct too and although I haven't found a way of conquering it on the 'outside', being honest about my feelings on my blog help me to challenge that reflex to hide and bury feelings deep.<br /><br />Good for you Kate. And I hope you feel better soon xJosie @Sleep is for the Weakhttp://sleepisfortheweak.org.uknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1420360158983455036.post-58831307356267203472010-02-14T19:53:41.479+00:002010-02-14T19:53:41.479+00:00Thanks Sandy really appreciate the supportive mess...Thanks Sandy really appreciate the supportive message and for the hugs I needed those. Did you know we need 12 hugs a day to be living in flow?<br /><br />The funny thing is that when it's really bad, it often feels to me that everybody is on the other side of the fence taking the opposite point of view to mine. This time I realised that actually lots of people have no clue what it is I'm talking about and others who do know, are taking a range of positions on the matter or are not bothered either way. Then another day with its particular challenges and fun moments comes along and one's perspective changes again.Minerva's Mindhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09447242831712367231noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1420360158983455036.post-31058489797255406292010-02-13T19:43:43.621+00:002010-02-13T19:43:43.621+00:00Good for you Kate. I have a tendency to withdraw w...Good for you Kate. I have a tendency to withdraw when I'm down. Next time I may be more open about it. Sending (((HUGS))) xsanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12004801243819162845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1420360158983455036.post-52404587926930057562010-02-12T19:26:23.210+00:002010-02-12T19:26:23.210+00:00Thanks Cathy. I love the idea of eating frogs at ...Thanks Cathy. I love the idea of eating frogs at the start of the day and then there is nothing worse that can befall you. What a marvellous idea. I wonder who thought that up..?Minerva's Mindhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09447242831712367231noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1420360158983455036.post-84607780986450306182010-02-12T18:48:28.447+00:002010-02-12T18:48:28.447+00:00Good on you Kate! It's always hard to break ou...Good on you Kate! It's always hard to break out of our patterns, particularly the ones that protect us, but my feeling is that every time we step outside of our comfort zone and make ourselves vulnerable, the universe sends us what we need and helps us to become stronger. Keep on eating thiose frogs, regardless of what time of day it is :-)The Colourful Coachhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05060375060506977851noreply@blogger.com