The power of love

I am loving life despite its roller coaster nature at time. It feels as if so much is coming together. At the end of the day it is all about trust. Those of you who read my blog regularly will know that last week something really huge happened. At the time there were all sorts of emotions flying round my head and not many of them were positive ones. How did it all change? Two things happened.

1. I gave myself a reiki treatment and it enabled me to see the whole situation from a very different perspective and enabled me to see the opportunity in what could have been seen as a very difficult situation.

2. I remembered that I am always at choice for how I respond to events that happen to me. I can play the woe is me card but by doing that I am in victim mode. Instead I was able to seize the opportunity presented and see the freedom it gave me. I was now really and truly my own boss and could take Minerva's Mind in whatever direction I wanted and see what happened.

And do you know what it has paid off because one of our members so likes the new direction that she has linked Minerva's Mind to her own fan page, The Return2workMums Club. We receive many times over what we give freely as this examples shows.

In gratitude and as a way of thanking the Universe, I am offering a limited number of free sessions to all those who are members of Minerva's Mind. If you could do with relaxing or more energy in your life then make sure you are a member and get in touch for your session.

What are some of the steps towards inter-dependence?

I was coaching another Mum today and as a result of our conversation realised what a short period of time it actually is that our children really depend on us. Certainly by the age of twelve they no longer want to do stuff with Mum, it's much more cool to hang out with their friends.

It struck me that for much of the time when children are very young - mine are 3 and 2 - one often finds oneself thinking if only they could do that themselves. Recently my eldest has got into the habit of jumping out of bed half an hour after lights out, having shouted for me because she needs the toilet. I have insisted that she go by herself then she comes downstairs to find me and asks me to tuck her up again. I can find this an intrusion into my time rather than seeing it as endearing.

And yet when our kids decide that we are superfluous to requirements and become more independent, there is a part of us that encourages this change because it is the first step on the path to adulthood. If we are honest another part of us is saddened by the loss of those moments spent together in the park or whatever it was we did together. How many parents give themselves space to acknowledge these feelings or ever voice them to their children?

This is one of life's conundrums. It seems to me that one of our roles as parents is to enjoy whatever stage that we are in with our children. The other is to help our children discover inter-dependence as this is the route to a greater sense of contentment in adulthood. Isn't life about finding the balance between the urge to belong and be accepted and the need to find our own destiny whilst being in relationship with others?